'Truly we belong to Allah, and truly to Allah shall we return'
On the morning of July 28th, 2009, at approximately 5.51am, Nek Tok, Allahyarham Haji Kassim bin Sifat, Tok Mama's father passed away in his sleep after being in the hospital for a little more than a month. We were asleep when Tok Mama called Dadda to inform us of the news.
Mommy and Dadda immediately got ready, woke me up and bathed me and headed back to Tok Mama's hometown where Nek Tok's body was to be laid to rest that afternoon itself. Many people who knew Nek Tok from all over came to pay their last respects. Nek Tok was buried after the Zohor prayers, at around 2pm. Everything, alhamdulillah, went smoothly.
We held 'tahlil' for 3 days in a row where we recited quran verses and duas. Neighbours and family members attended the 'tahlil' and many expressed their condolences especially to Nek Wan, Tok Mama's mother.
We were forbidden to mourn for more than three days for a dead person, except for a husband, for whom a wife should mourn for four months and ten days (while in the mourning period) we were not allowed to put kohl in our eyes, nor perfume ourselves, nor wear dyed clothes, except a garment of 'Asb (special clothes made in Yemen). But it was permissible for us that when one of us became clean from her menses and took a bath, she could use a piece of a certain kind of incense. And it was forbidden for us to follow funeral processions.
On the morning of July 28th, 2009, at approximately 5.51am, Nek Tok, Allahyarham Haji Kassim bin Sifat, Tok Mama's father passed away in his sleep after being in the hospital for a little more than a month. We were asleep when Tok Mama called Dadda to inform us of the news.
Mommy and Dadda immediately got ready, woke me up and bathed me and headed back to Tok Mama's hometown where Nek Tok's body was to be laid to rest that afternoon itself. Many people who knew Nek Tok from all over came to pay their last respects. Nek Tok was buried after the Zohor prayers, at around 2pm. Everything, alhamdulillah, went smoothly.
We held 'tahlil' for 3 days in a row where we recited quran verses and duas. Neighbours and family members attended the 'tahlil' and many expressed their condolences especially to Nek Wan, Tok Mama's mother.
We were forbidden to mourn for more than three days for a dead person, except for a husband, for whom a wife should mourn for four months and ten days (while in the mourning period) we were not allowed to put kohl in our eyes, nor perfume ourselves, nor wear dyed clothes, except a garment of 'Asb (special clothes made in Yemen). But it was permissible for us that when one of us became clean from her menses and took a bath, she could use a piece of a certain kind of incense. And it was forbidden for us to follow funeral processions.
Hadith - Bukhari 7:254, Narrated Um 'Atiyya 
Nek Tok's The Last Supper with Nek Wan, Tok Mama & Mama Rina's family..
I'm thankful that Nek Tok had the chance to see me. I probably won't have memories of Nek Tok with me when I'm older but at least Mommy, Dadda, Tok Mama and the rest of the family do.
Possibily my final picture with Nek Tok during Mak Lang Nur's wedding
Plus, there are photos to remind me of him.
May his soul rest in peace. Al-Fatihah.
